Allah willed a righteous spouse based on Niyah, Du'a and belief in qadr of Allah:

I would interpret this as Choosing Wisely and equating it to "Tying the camel". Yes, The Qur'an says:

“Women of purity are for men of purity, and men of purity are for women of purity.” (24:26)

and Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) said:

“A woman may be married for four reasons: for her property, for her rank, for her beauty, and for her religion (and character), so marry the one who is best in the religion and character and prosper.” (Bukhari)

So yes, we must choose well but ultimately it comes down to Niyah, Du'a and belief in Qadr of Allah. This is the only equation that leads anywhere worthwhile. This is also hikmah. For a person who lacks hikmah will not understand the need for this.

A long long time ago, when it was my turn to "tie the knot" I am sure that I would have messed up, if Allah has not taken charge and willed for me the partner I have today. Alhamdulillah! But here is where I say there is more to this....this is a THREE part series.

Allah willed a righteous spouse based on Niyah, Du'a and belief in qadr of Allah and also, as Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) said:

“Three groups of people Allah obliged Himself to help them: Mujahid in the cause of Allah, a worker to pay his debt, and the one who wants to marry to live a chaste life.” (Tirmidhi)

But here is the SECOND part, which is the question. *Am I equal in measure to this Niyamah of Allah?* - I personally started in the deficit in my own stature as a Muslim.

Which brings us to Part 3: *So I now have to work hard to make up for the deficit*.

THIS is the inherent benefit of a righteous spouse. To help us strive to be better Muslims. Any progeny from this kind of a union in sha Allah will be strong in belief and faith and well grounded.

A relationship is like rowing a boat. One person paddling will only take us around in circles. Both perfection and extreme deficit are areas of danger, I feel. Always striving at being better will inculcate that drive in the offspring.

I have a long way to go.

May Allah make it easy on us and give us the strength, courage and ability to be the zariyah for our spouse and children to enter Jannah so we may be united therein.

May Allah will it so that we are the witnesses to their virtues and righteousness on the day when we will all be accountable.

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Written by Mohammad Zaid

Note from the writer:

Alhamdulillah, I do not mind at all. Please feel free to share. Every worthwhile thought I have expressed is nothing but guidance from Allah and therefore HIS property. I have no right over it.

However, my only request is that it be mentioned that the source from which these thoughts stem is by no means an authority of any kind with regards to Islam. These are my personal views and are therefore subject to be faulty.

Link to Brother Zaid's blog.

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