Skip to main content

Your wife is from yourself. When she is happy, you will live a happy life:

*I did not marry you to play with you*

😭😭
They got married after a beautiful love story, and after two weeks the husband woke up to go to work. He went to the bathroom to wash his face, and in the mirror he saw his face full of drawings of different colors.
His wife was young, childish, and had an innocent heart. She scribbled on his face as he was sleeping, and she did so with a great love, that they would laugh about it in the morning.
The husband washed his face while upset, and went to the kitchen to drink the coffee which he usually does every morning. He did not find the coffee, and he became more upset, and went to her.
She smiled because she thought he would laugh at her, and say something romantic.
But he slapped her until she fell down, and yelled at her saying: "I did not marry you to play with you, I am a man and not a young child. I married you to start a family to have children, to be a man in the eyes of everyone. Do you want to live a love story of the films and those novels that you read? Wake up, these stories does not make a home, nor provide food, nor raise children. Today I will invite my friends for lunch, I want everything to be ready when I come back. Do you understand?"
He went out and saw himself as the master of the house. He left her broken, crying so hard that she could not breathe well.
She is sick and when she cries she almost breaks out.
Then she hurriedly went to prepare lunch, and tears did not leave her cheeks.
The husband went and told his friend what had happened while laughing:
"They think that marriage is all love and romance. This is how women should be treated, my friend, otherwise she will never learn responsibility. She will not be a good mother. She must know that marriage is not as she sees or reads about it. These are just stories to gain profits. They need to learn that marriage is not a game or a novel."
But fortunately his friend was not like him, he did not let him to finish his conversation, he cut him saying: "What kind of a man are you? Why are you so harsh on your wife? Is this how a good husband is supposed to be? The Messenger of Allah (May Allah's Blessings and Peace be upon him) said: (Be gentle with ladies, they are like glasses.)
You have to deal with them gently and be soft on them, and do not break their hearts. Blessings and Peace of Allah be upon him said: (This world is temporary joys, and the best temporary joy of this world is a righteous wife.)
Beware what you mentioned a little while ago about cooking and raising the children. It is not compulsory for her, but being nice to her will make her love you more, and be passion on you, and she will do all these without you telling her. You should know that she is not your maid. Go back to your senses my friend, and repent to Allah. Go back to your wife and honor her and do not make her sad again."
The husband felt sad and regretted what he did.
He then decided to call her to tell her that he had cancelled the lunch invitation of his friends, and to prepare lunch for them alone.
The phone rang but there was no answer.
He went back to the house quickly and rang the bell but no one answered.
He forgot his keys in the morning, because he came out while upset.
Suddenly his phone rang, it was his wife's brother.
His wife called his brother when she felt she was not well, to take her to the hospital.
His wife's brother said to him: "Brother, we are in the hospital."
His voice was full of sadness, which made the husband's heart almost to stop from fear, and the idea that something bad had happened to his wife.
He stopped the Taxi and went to the hospital, and found all her family there.
There was sadness on their faces.
He thought that they would be angry at him, but it seems they did not know what had happened.
He greeted them and waited for the doctor.
After several hours the doctor came out to them head down and told them: "With great sadness and sorrow, May Allah Have Mercy on her, the weakness of her heart came to us late."
Everyone cried, especially  the husband. He regretted and blamed himself.
Her mother washed her and she was buried the same day.
In the evening the husband returned home after taking the keys from the brother of his deceased wife.
He entered the house and found the table covered. He removed the cover and found the best delicious dishes, and saw a paper hanging on the door of the refrigerator.
It was written: 'My love, I am sorry because I wanted you to betray the customs and traditions of your community. I am sorry because I wanted you to get out of this stone heart of a man, and to hear from you some romantic words, and hug me and tell me that you love me. Forgive me because of my childish mind I wanted you to treat me like a child. I hope your friends will like the food, and I promise that I will never make you sad or upset again. I promise you. I love you so much."
He looked at the table and threw the food everywhere, and sat down crying, crying and saying: "What did I do to you my love, I killed you with my cruelty, forgive me?"

These days, we dishonor a man who loves and spoils his wife. We have forgotten that, you are considered a great man if you have mercy on your wife, and it is also a Command of Allah.
Allah Says: {And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquillity in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought.}

Remember your wife is from yourself, when she is happy, you will live a happy life.
Know that building a happy home requires, Patience, Honesty and Love✨✨

Source: WhatsApp message.

Popular posts from this blog

The 40 Acts of Paradise:

 * Abdallah Bin ‘Amr Bin ‘Āsؓ  said that he heard the Messenger of Allah ﷺ say, “There are forty acts, the best of which is giving food, if any are done seeking their reward and believing in their promise, Allah will grant them Paradise by this act.” (Bukhari). Shaykh ‘Abdullah Bin Siddīq al-Ghumārī (d. 1993) wrote a small book enumerating these forty acts : 1. Feeding people in need and without remuneration 2. Removing a harmful object from the road 3. Feeding and watering animals 4. Visiting the sick 5. Befriending and visiting someone only for the sake of God 6. Belief in God and the Final Hour 7. Giving when you have little 8. Enjoying the good and forbidding the evil 9. Helping those with disabilities 10. Heling the misfortunate 11. Returning a salam greeting 12. Responding with blessings to the one who sneezes 13. Responding to an invitation 14. Following a funeral procession 15. Beginning a salam greeting 16. Giving sound advice 17. Removing harm from the mosque 18. Smi...

A dua from a parent to their children:

Let us all pray for our children with this long dua.  A POWERFUL DU'A FOR CHILDREN! In the name of Allah, the most Beneficent, the most Merciful! All praises are for Allah SWT, the most Compassionate, the most Forgiving. Salutations and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad SAW, his family and companions. Oh Allah, I submit myself to You. I realise that parenting a child is a very difficult task and I turn to You in humility for Your help. I implore You for Your wisdom and guidance. Oh Allah, I know that our children are an amaanat from You, to care for and to raise in a manner that is pleasing to You. Help me do that in the best way. Teach me how to love in a way that You would have me love. Help me where I need to be healed, improved, nurtured, and made whole. Help me walk in righteousness and integrity so that You may always be pleased with me. Allow me to be a God-fearing role model with all the communication, teaching, and nurturing skills that I may need. Oh Allah, You know ...

Love towards my Kind Teacher (S.A.W):

Love is when Bilal (Radhiallahu 'anhu) stopped giving the adhan after the death of the Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) Love is Bilal leaving Madina after the Prophet’s (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) death because everything reminded him of his beloved Love is Bilal seeing the Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) in a dream telling him, "what is with this dryness/distance oh Bilal?" when a long time had elapsed since he visited the Prophet's (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) grave, prompting Bilal to head to Madinah upon waking Love is Bilal arriving in Madinah in the middle of the night and Hasan and Hussain (Radhiallahu 'anhum) finding him at the maqam of the Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) crying and Hasan and Hussain insisting that he give the adhan for Fajr. People came rushing to the masjid: weeping and anguished - reminded of their days with the Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) Love is Bilal…when Umar ibn al Khattab (Radhiallahu 'anhu) asked h...

Animals which have been named in the Quran; the birds and insects of which are:

-  Approximately 35 animals have been named in the Quran; the birds and insects of which are: Salwa (سلوی)=The quail (Baqarah:57),  Ba’uth (بعوض)=Mosquito (Baqarah:26),  Dhubab (ذباب)=Fly (Hajj:73),  Nahl (نحل)=Honeybee (Nahl:68),  Ankabut (عنکبوت)=Spider (Ankabut:41),  Jarad (جراد)=Grasshopper (A’raf:133),  HudHud (هدهد)=Hoopoe (Naml:20),  Ghurab (غراب)=Crow (Ma’idah:31),  Ababil (ابابیل)= probably ‘Swallow’ (Fil:3),  Naml (نمل)=Ant (Naml:18),  Farash (فراش)=Butterfly (Al-Qari’ah),  Qummal (قمّل)=Flea (A’raf:133). Also, other animals have been mentioned in the Quran which are as follows: Qirdah (قرده)=Monkey (Baqarah:65),  Bighal (بغال)=Mule (Nahl:16),  Ghanam/Na’jah/Dha’n/Ma’z (غنم/نعجه/ضأن/معز)=Sheep (An’am:143-146 and Sad:23-24),  Dhi’b (ذئب)=Wolf (Yusuf:15), Ba’ir (بعیر) and Jamal (جمل)=Camel (Yusuf:65; A’raf:40…),  Qaswarah (قسورة)=Lion (Muddathir:51),  Kheyl (خیل)/Jiyad (جیاد)(plural of جواد)/Saf...

An annual conference for education development (18th Conference):

 * 18th Annual Millat Conference (by MFERD)* #* Perform to Potential*# - Building Holistic Education Systems Dear Brother/Sister, Assalamu Alaikum All praise is to the Almighty Lord who created us and bestowed upon us the title of ‘Khalifa’, His vicegerent on earth. This implies that every individual has the ‘potential’ to perform the duties of the Almighty’s vicegerent. Unfortunately, due to several internal and external hindrances, man doesn’t live up to his potential. Similar is the case of our institutions. In the present world scenario, firmly anchoring and strengthening our educational institutions is of prime importance. It is probably the only way to create a collectively contributing ummah, that can positively influence the future of societies and countries. A handful of schools providing holistic education can significantly change the outlook of an entire city. Such is the potential of educational institutions. But the challenge lies in developing systems and practices (a...

​⭕ ​Kufr wa Shirk ⭕

*​❧ Allah Ta’ala ki sifaat mein shirk:* ❧ Allah Ta'ala ki sifaat mein shirk ka matlab yeh hai ke jo sifaat Allah Ta'ala ke saath khaas hain, un ko kisi doosre ke liye maanna jaise Allah Ta'ala ke alaawa kisi ko rozi dene waala aur aulaad dene waala samajhna, kisi Nabi aur wali ke baare mein yeh aqeeda rakhna ke un ko khuda ki tarah gaib ki tamaam baaton ka ilm hai, Allah Ta'ala ki tarah kisi doosre ko ibaadat ka mustahiq samajhna aur us ke liye ibaadat ka koi fel karna jaise kisi qabr par ya kisi buzurg ke saamne sajda karna, kisi paigambar aur wali ke naam ka roza rakhna aur un ke naam par jaanwar zabah karna wagaira wagaira. ❧ Gunaahon mein kufr-o-shirk sab se bade gunah hain, kufr-o-shirk toba ke bagair hargiz maaf nahin hote, kufr-o-shirk ki haalat mein marne waala hamesha Jahannam mein rahega. ❧ Qur‘aan Majeed mein Allah Ta'ala ne shirk ke baare mein farmaaya: “Beshak Allah Ta'ala shirk ko maaf nahin karega aur is ke alaawa ji...

The Leaking Bucket:

*_Beware of the leaking bucket._* 1. You wear a abaya and hijab but with perfume and makeup. (a leaking bucket) 2. You are following the Sunnah and have a beard but you don’t lower your gaze. (a leaking bucket) 3. You pray all of your prayers on time but you have no Khushu at all. (a leaking bucket) 4. You are very kind to people and speak with them gently, but with your family you are always harsh.  (a leaking bucket) 5. You honour and treat your guests well but when they leave, you gossip about them and talk about their flaws. ((a leaking bucket) 6. You give a lot of sadaqah to the poor but you humiliate and hurt them. (a leaking bucket) 7. You stand up for tahajjud at night, fast, pray and read Quran everyday but cut your family ties. (a leaking bucket) 8. You fast and have sabr for the pangs of hunger and thirst but you swear, insult and curse. (a leaking bucket) 9. You help others but you are doing it to gain something from them and not doing this act of kindne...

Speaking in soft positive manner would not cost you anything but would enchant those you speak to and get rid of any ill feelings:

 There was once a king who saw in a dream that all his teeth had fallen out. He called a dream-interpreter, told him what he saw in the dream, and asked him to interpret it. When the interpreter heard the dream, his complexion changed and he began to repeat, “Allāh’s refuge is sought! Allāh’s refuge is sought!” The king became worried and asked, “What is the interpretation of my dream?” The interpreter said, “After many years pass, your wife and children will die and you will be all alone in your kingdom!” The king screamed, became furious, and began to hurl abuses and insults. He then ordered that the interpreter be imprisoned and called another interpreter, related to him what he saw in the dream and asked him for its interpretation. The dream-interpreter smiled and said, “Glad tidings, dear king!” The king said, “What is the interpretation of the dream?” The interpreter said, “It means that you will live for very long – so long that you will be the last of your family to die, an...

Muslim Women at home are doing a wonderful job:

Women and household work ! 🌶🍅🌶🍅🌶🍅🌶🍅🌶🍅 To all of my believing sisters out there who feel “ being stuck at home “ with child rearing and cooking and cleaning day in and day out .... who feel their productivity and creativity is withering away , who feel there is a lot to do out there like going for hifz classes , attending lectures , volunteering for dawah activities and other ways by which they can gain Allah subhaanahu wa taala s pleasure .... Do you feel there is less opportunities at home for acquiring great rewards ? Then let me remind you of 2 great women of Paradise ... Khadijah and Fatimah , may Allah be pleased with them both ... Khadija , (R) was not a scholar of Hadith like , Aisha (R) ... she has not related a single Hadith, nor has she participated in any battle of Islam ... Then what are her achievements , of course being the first convert is the be...

We need to go back to these core teachings and examples of Islam and similarly strive for achieving an ethical and moral society, wherever we live:

- Assalamualaikum, For those who can drop their 21st century cultural baggage and read this sermon in its own historical context, one can’t help but admire it as one of the earliest declarations of human rights in written history. Almost everything Muhammad SAWS says in this prophetic sermon was almost unheard of and inconceivable prior to the arrival of Islam. The Prophet of Islam addresses some of the core universal values in a society where those values are long forgotten and violated in a systemic basis. The Prophet didn’t only say but transformed his society, in a very short period of time, remarkably in all the values and lessons that he talks about.  In this sermon of Muhammad SAWS, Muslims find their deep commitment to the universal human values such as sacredness of life and property, equality, justice, peace and more. Upon these high universal values, the religion of Islam was built.  We still have so much to learn from this 1,440-plus-year-old cry and we are so much...