*ETIQUETTES OF SPEECH*- In the light of Quran and Hadith:

ETIQUETTES OF SPEECH- In the light of Quran and Hadith:

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*ETIQUETTES OF SPEECH*

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*QUR'AANIC AND PROPHETIC NARRATIONS ON SPEECH*

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The Messenger of Allaah (ﷺ) said: _*“Whoever believes in Allaah and the Last Day, let him speak good or else keep silent …”*_ (Al-Bukhari and Muslim)

Al-Nawawi (رحمه الله) said: _“If he wants to speak, then if what he wants to say is good and he is confident that he will be rewarded for it, whether it is obligatory or praiseworthy, then let him speak, but if it does not seem to him that it is good and he will be rewarded for it, then let him refrain from speaking, whether he thinks it is haram (impermissible) or makrooh (disliked) or permissible._

Some wise men said, _“Do not be stingy with a word that does not arouse your Lord’s wrath yet it pleases your brother. It may happen that Allah gives you the reward of those who do good works.”_

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*MANNERS OF SPEECH*

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In the Qur'aan, Allaah (ﷻ) said :

1. When dealing with family

*Let them fear Allaah, and speak words of appropriate (comfort). (An-Nisaa 4:9)*

2. When dealing with wrongdoers.

*..but admonish them, and speak to them a word to reach their very souls.* (An-Nisaa' 4:63)

*"But speak to him mildly; perchance he may take warning or fear (Allaah)."* (Taha 20:44)

3. When dealing with parents

*...whether one or both of them attain old age in thy life, say not to them a word of contempt, nor repel them, but address them in terms of honour. (Al-Isra'i 17:23)*

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*FOR THE BEST OF PEOPLE*

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The Messenger of Allaah ﷺ said, _*“Kind speech and feeding (the hungry) guarantee you Paradise.”*_ (al-Tabarani)

*_“Ward off the Fire even if by giving half a date in charity. If you could not afford that then utter a kind word.”_* (al-Bukhari and Muslim)

He ﷺ also said, *_“A good word is also a charitable deed.”*_ (Muslim)

The Prophet (ﷺ) was not one who would abuse (others) or say obscene words, or curse (others)…” (Bukhaari)

*"And when the foolish address them (with bad words) they reply back with ‘Salamaa’ (peaceful words of gentleness).”* (Al-Furqan 25:63)

*_Ibn ‘Abbas said, “Two men defamed one another in the time of the Messenger of Allaah (ﷺ). One of them reviled the other who remained silent. The Prophet (ﷺ) remained seated. Then the other man answered him back and the Prophet (ﷺ) got up. He was asked, “You got up?” He said, “The angels left, so I left with them. While this man was silent, the angels were answering the one who cursed him. When he answered, the angels left.” (Adab al-Mufrad)_*

*_"The believer is not a slanderer, one who curses a great deal, one who indulges in obscenity or who in engages in foul talk.”_* (Tirmidhi– saheeh by al-Albaani)

*...and lower your voice; indeed, the most disagreeable of sounds is the voice of donkey (Luqman, 31:19-20)*

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*THE WORST OF PEOPLE*

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Al-Hasan (رَضِّيْ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ) said, _“He that did not safeguard his tongue did not understand his religion.”_

A’ishah (رَضِّيْ اللَّهُ عَنْهُا) narrated that the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said, “The most hated person with Allaah is the most quarrelsome person.” (al-Bukhari)

The Prophet (ﷺ) said:

*_"The inmates of Hell are of five types….” And among them, he mentioned “…the miser, the liar AND THOSE WHO ARE IN THE HABIT OF ABUSING PEOPLE AND USING OBSCENE AND FOUL LANGUAGE."_*(Muslim)

The Prophet (ﷺ) said:

*_" The worst people in Allaah's sight on the Day of Resurrection will be those whom the people desert or leave in order to save themselves from their dirty language or from their transgression"_*(Bukhaari)

It's very easy. If it's not something good or beneficial, remain silent. You can save yourself a lot of hatred and enmity and preserve your relationship with Allaah by doing so.

We seek refuge in Allaah from evils of speech and evil speech. آمين

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