Skip to main content

The upbringing of children as per sunnah of Prophet Muhammed (s.a.w):

why are you not strict with your kids??
why dont you scare them a bit??
why you just watching and not doing anything about his/her behaviour????
This is why!!!!!

  MUST  READ FOR ALL OF YOU WHO HAVE THIS QUESTION!!!
THIS IS WHAT MOST PEOPLE ARE UNAWARE OF!!!!!

Prophetic Parenting*
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

Recognise that your child... Is just a child. He or She isn't an adult.

For the religion recognises that. Which is why he isn't held to account for any religious obligation until he hits puberty, and then he is treated as a fully accountable adult.

So you are not allowed to hit him (lightly with a twig) until he is at least 10 years old and even then for something as serious in the religion as refusing to pray. And this hit is not to punish, it is to discipline. Because it's not even a proper hit, it's light tap on the hand to make him pay attention.

So what is with parents who are so quick to pinch a 3 year old for spilling a drink? Or to shout at them angrily when they break something. As if this 3 year old should know better?

Where does this behaviour stand in our religion? I

'll tell you where it stands. It stands on the side of oppression. Because you have harmed a human whose mind isn't even fully developed and is still figuring out himself and the world around him. That's unfair and that's oppression.

Rather, in disciplining a child, the way of our prophet (may peace and blessings be upon him) is to always focus on teaching what is the right thing to do and emphasising it over and over and over (and overrrrr) again, or to remove him from the situation (eg, if he is hitting other children, bring him away and talk to him nicely, or take away the toy that is causing the fight, but don't hit him).

Our beloved prophet (may peace and blessings be upon him) was related to have never raised his hand, nor voice against ANYONE, be it man, woman, children, servant, or slave. Unless it was in battle, and even then it was usually on the defence and never on the offence.

Hitting is not the way of our beloved prophet.
Shouting is not the way of our beloved prophet.
Condemning is not the way of our beloved prophet.
Sarcasm is not the way of our beloved prophet.
Using harsh words or negative terms like stupid, naughty, clumsy, useless is definitely not the way of our beloved prophet. 

Rather,
Positive words of encouragement is the way of our beloved prophet.
Hugging and dhikr is the way of our beloved prophet.
Speaking with a soft voice and smiling face is the way of our beloved prophet.
Reminding, reminding, reminding, is the way of our beloved prophet.
Calling others with good positive names is the way of our beloved prophet.
MERCY and FORGIVENESS and PARDONING is definitely the way of our beloved prophet.

Especially, and especially so, to children.

May peace and the blessings of Allah be upon him and his family and his companions.

So where are we in following the way of this man whom we claim to love?

Let's reflect upon ourselves.

Source: received as whatsaap message

Popular posts from this blog

Dr Robert Crane now a Pious Muslim named as Farooq Abdul Haq- A Phd in International law, a US Preseident's Ex Advisor, to a Pious Muslim story:

 Former US President Richard Nixon’s adviser is Robert Crane.  He holds: Doctorate in Public Law.  • PhD in International Law.  • President of the Harvard Society of International Law. He later became President Nixon's foreign affairs adviser.  He was also the Deputy Director of the US National Security Council.  • He is considered an expert in Political Affairs in the United States.  • He is founder of the Center for Civilization and Modernization in the United States.  He speaks fluently in six living languages. What's the story?  One day President Nixon wanted to read about "Islamic Principles and Rules", so he asked CIA to prepare a research paper on the subject for him.    Assigned CIA cadre wrote a detail research paper and submitted to President Nixon.   But Nixon felt the paper was a bit lengthy and detailed. So he asked his adviser, Robert Crane, to read and summarize the article.    Robert read the article a...
Read more

*ACHIEVING TRANQUILITY* - Peace here and hereafter:

 - *What the Prophet(saw) Knew* The Prophet ﷺ and his companions knew something that is not often displayed today. They were able to face difficulty with a certain determination in their heart; they were grateful for even the seemingly small blessings; they took pleasure in praying at night while the people were asleep. What they knew was this: if they sought Allah subhanahu wa ta`ala (exalted is He) they would not be let down. This is the secret to the statement of Abu Bakr  radiAllah `anhu (ra) to the Prophet ﷺ during the battle of Badr, when the Prophet ﷺ was crying out to Allah (swt) in an impassioned du`a’(supplication) until his cloak fell from his shoulder. Abu Bakr (ra) said, “O Messenger of Allah, this prayer of yours to your Lord will suffice you, and He will fulfill for you what He has promised you!” And He did- the battle was won by the Muslims. Human desires are insatiable. And for this reason, the more we chase after the dunya (physical world), the less we are sa...
Read more

My Tryst with Urdu and Journey so far:

 - By: Iqbal Sattar Dear friend. I was educated up to 3rd standard in Dharwad in Government Urdu School. Our Teacher with white pagadi and hanging back portion was so nice. My father was an Education officer in Dharwad. He established many Urdu Schools, in Dharwad, Bijapur, Belgaum and Karwar. He used his approach to Urdu Schools in villages for community outreach. I completed my 7th in Belgaum Government Urdu School and SSC ie XIth in Islamiya High School Camp Belgaum. These 11 years of Urdu medium strengthen my love for Education. The teachers in those days were devoted. Our Headmasters and principal Late Adam Jamadar, were great personalities.  Library, newspaper, reading books, discussion, allocution competitions, sports, science exhibition, and Drama competition were part of Education. We learnt good English, Persian, Kannada and Marathi along with Urdu. The interaction with teachers was wonderful. My principal had called me in his office and corrected my Aswersheet for 3...
Read more

Some of the traditional methods of raising children in Tarim (Yemen):

*Raising children* Some of the traditional methods of raising children in Tarim (Yemen). This is really beautiful. Women expecting children would ensure every morsel going into their mouths was halal. Breastfeeding mothers would repeatedly recite Ayah al-Kursi, Surah al-Falaq, Surah al-Nas and du'as of protection over their babies. When a child first began to speak it would be taught to say: رَضِيتُ بِاللهِ رَبّاً، وبِالإِسْلامِ دِيناً، و بسيِّدِنَا مُحَمَّدٍ صلى الله عليه وسلم نَبِيَّاً ورَسُولاً ‘I am content with Allah as my Lord, with Islam as my religion, and with our Master Muhammad ﷺ as my Prophet and Messenger.’ Parents would teach their children the importance of making good intentions and what intentions to make just as they would teach them how to recite Surat al-Fatiha. Parents would teach their children to call upon Allah in every situation. If a child asked for something, his parents would tell him to perform wudu, pray two rak'ats and then ask Allah to fulfil his...
Read more

Distance learning: Islamic University of Madinah:

🔹The Islamic University of Madinah🔹 By the bounty of Allah the Electronic distance Learning initiative for non Saudis at the Islamic University has been launched.  Two programs have been made available: 1 - Sharee'ah Bachelors Program 2 - Arabic language program for non native speakers To register for the Sharee'ah Bachelors Program from any corner of the world:  http://islamicuniversity.online/index Remember that by sharing this message you might share the reward of a student of knowledge throughout his studies and the reward of the knowledge he conveyes to others! Arabic: https://islamicuniversity.online/faq_ar Source: The information is received through WhatsApp message.
Read more

Don’t fall into being from those who are unjust and falsely assume:

 - ASSUME GOOD OF PEOPLE: 🌸🌿🌸🌿🌸🌿🌸🌿🌸🌿🌸🌿🌸 A girl willingly jumps into a car after the male driver who sees her walking in the streets tells her to get in. 🌸🌿🌸🌿🌸🌿🌸🌿🌸🌿🌸🌿🌸 A man walks into a mosque while everyone is praying to wash his hands and leaves it without joining the prayer. 🌸🌿🌸🌿🌸🌿🌸🌿🌸🌿🌸🌿🌸 A teenage boy is greeted by a passerby but doesn’t return the Salam. 🌸🌿🌸🌿🌸🌿🌸🌿🌸🌿🌸🌿🌸 - 1st scenario: the driver was the girl’s brother - 2nd scenario: the man had already prayed in a mosque nearby which finished earlier - 3rd scenario: the teenage boy is deaf 🌸🌿🌸🌿🌸🌿🌸🌿🌸🌿🌸🌿🌸 Many people will fall into this trap of assuming bad of others. How can a girl ever agree to ride with her guy friend, how can a man dare to enter a mosque and leave without joining in on prayer and how can young boy not have respect and answer back the greeting. 🌸🌿🌸🌿🌸🌿🌸🌿🌸🌿🌸🌿🌸 A scholar once said: “If I see my brother and his beard is dripping alcohol...
Read more

# The Invisible Foundation: How Islamic Scholarship Built the Modern West:

 - The history of "Western" knowledge is often told as a straight line from Ancient Greece to the European Renaissance. However, modern scholarship reveals that this narrative has a massive "missing middle."  For over five hundred years, the Islamic Golden Age did not just "preserve" ancient knowledge—it revolutionized it, creating the very empirical and logical tools the West uses today. ## 1. Beyond Preservation: The Birth of Experimentation While the Greeks excelled in deductive reasoning (thinking from general principles), Islamic scholars introduced the **inductive, experimental method**. The most prominent figure was **Ibn al-Haytham (Alhazen)**. In his *Kitab al-Manazir* (Book of Optics), he rejected the Greek theory that the eye emits light. More importantly, he established that theories must be proven through controlled, repeatable experiments (Piniés, n.d.). This methodological shift is now recognized as the foundational root of the modern scient...
Read more

When we know it, we should act: that's the aim of knowledge:

💔 We used to know but we didn't act Ibnul Qayyim (RA) said, "A girl died of the plague and her father saw her in his dream. He said, 'my daughter, tell me about the hereafter. So she said, 'We've approached a serious matter. We used to know but we didn't act. I swear by Allah, to add one tasbeehah (saying Subhan Allah) or a single Rak'ah to my book of deeds is more beloved to me than the whole world and everything in it.' This girl said words of great importance. 'We used to know but we didn't act', but many of us don't understand what she means. We used to know, that if we say Subhan Allah wa bi Hamdihi 100 times our sins are forgiven even if they're like the foam of the sea (yet days and nights pass and we don't say it) We used to know that two rak'ahs of Duha prayer is the equivalent of giving 360 charities (yet day after day pass and we don't pray it) We used to know that a house in the middle of Jannah ...
Read more

Quran Juz 7 – Wa Iza Sami’u - Summary:

 - Quran Juz 7 – Wa Iza Sami’u Summary Join Us: https://chat.whatsapp.com/EwGX2NFn95O2Bo92HkyyiI • Allah talks about those Christians who cannot control their tears when they listen to the Qur’anic recitation. This was especially in context to Najashi Ash’amah, the Christian King of Habsha who had accepted Islam. • From Verses 87 of Surah Maidah the topics like Halal & Haram and extremism are discussed. • Islam is a religion of balance. It neither calls for abstention of permissible items (for drinking, eating, wearing etc.) as piety, nor does it abolish the distinction between Halal & Haram. • Verse 89 talks about oaths (qasm/aqd). The penalty of breaking the oath is to either feed 10 poor and needy, twice, with an average food of his/her usual intake (cost wise), or to clothe them, or to free a slave. If someone cannot do it, he/she should fast on three days. Allah also advices to be true on oaths to be safe from getting penalized. • If a person takes an oath of...
Read more