Parents should not depend on others for the correct upbringing of their children, they should take responsibility themselves:
A pattern and rule for the house.
Dr Abdul Kareem Bakkaar from Syria famous for his sayings, an author of more than 40 books, who taught in most of the universities in Saudi Arabia.
He mentions:
Parents should not depend on others for the correct upbringing of their children, they should take responsibility themselves and make the children responsible for their own good character.
It will be good if parents make some light rules in the house so that the children can understand the importance of fulfilling responsibilities and good character can become part of their lives.
Parents should take what is relavent for them and if they so wish, change and add some points.
1. Every person in the house should perform Salaah on it’s correct time.
2. "Please" and "Jazakallah" are of utmost importance, no one will be exempt from using it.
3. Hitting, fighting, swearing and cursing will not be tolerated.
4. Your thinking and views will be presented with complete respect and etiquette.
5. Whoever opens anything (doors, windows, containers) should also close it, and if something falls, he should pick it up and clean the mess.
6. Your room is your responsibility.
7. No one will interrupt anyone while they are speaking.
8. Don't talk to anyone in a very soft tone that they cannot hear you.
9. If an elderly person or parents say something or gives an order, you will have to comply.
10. When entering the house, the person should make Salaam.
11. Every person in the house will have to recite Quraan daily.
12. Whoever comes to vist will have to abide by the same rules.
13. No one will be allowed to eat anything in his/her room.
14. No one will remain awake after 10pm.
15. Everyone, young and old will wake up for Fajr.
16. All smartphones and devices can only be used between 9am and 9pm, and after using it for 15min there should be a space of an hour.
17. Respect for the parents should always be upheld.
18. A time should be set aside for sitting together, no one will be allowed with any device at this time.
19. It is necessary for all to be present at meal times.
20. After 10pm no one should be busy with any type of studying.
21. Every person in the house is responsible for looking after everything in the house.
22. You will not command anyone to do your work, you will do it yourself, elderly persons will be allowed to ask someone to do their work.
23. Family matters will take priority over all other types of work.
24. Permission will be taken before entering one’s room or private area.
25. Happiness will be expressed when visitors come, and they will be happily welcomed.
26. Full hospitality will be shown to visitors because things presented infront of visitors will not be accounted for in the court of Allah Ta'aala. Visitors bring the blessings of Allah Ta'aala.
The above-mentioned points should be given utmost importance because upbringing of the children is a very difficult task and it needs attention 7 days a week and 24 hours a day.
Besides these points, a person can teach his children to memorize Surah Naba', Surah Waqi'ah, Surah Yaseen and Surah Kahf, then you can be at ease with regards to them.
Source: Received as Whatsaap message. Republished as blog.